Men have a potential problem when it comes to loving (agape) in that full-servant sense. It has been seen plenty of times, a wife gets sick and a husband starts taking care of her and watching over her and his self-perceived role of ?husband / lover? shifts to the bitter ?caretaker / parent?. In some cases, if an illness is prolonged the husband may detach to the point of remaining in the caretaker role even after his wife gets better.
Mentally, it?s a dangerous place to be in. No longer are the ?lover feelings? being placed on the wife, but she becomes a vehicle of ?love-bearing? or ?caretaking?. The difference is so drastic that the husband might transfer his intimate love to something or someone else.
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